This is going to be a big week coming up as this past week was the "I'm done with the relationship". Whether she is truly "done" with the relationship or was "done" with feeling the pressure remains to be seen.
I did want to ask this as I wasn't sure I saw a consensus on the best way to handle it.
I don't want to do anything that seems like I'm niceing her back but should I keep making an effort to do dishes, cleaning more, etc.?
Over these past two months she has recognized these efforts but obviously still didn't move the needle at all.
Since her thinking I don't always help out around the house enough and has been a point of contention in our relationship in the past, what do you think?
I don't want to come off like a doormat or desperate/weak and that she just now expects me to do all the cleaning when she isn't coming around at all. But then again, it's tricky because she's like almost "firing" me. But if I don't do these things, that she has now acknowledged, I might regress on that positive.
Let me know what you think.
This weekend went well for me. I attended the Thanksgiving celebration with her family despite the recent tension. When I got there, the old me would have mostly stayed in the living room watching TV and talking with the father-in-law about sports. Instead, the new me helped my brother-in-law do most of the cooking and preparing. I didn't focus on my W at all. If she noticed, great, but I did it to be the new best me.
My sister-in-law has a 2 year old that really took me this weekend. The 2 year old and my W are super close when they are together. At times she turned down time with my wife for me to play with her, pick her up, sit with her, etc. My wife didn't make a big deal of it or say anything when it was happening but I know she observed all of this and I think she was impressed.
