br, your wife sounds a lot like mine. She would not admit anything other than there was another man. Wouldn’t say who or where she met him. Took me 5 minutes on Fb to figure it out. Still claims 8 months later that it wasn’t physical, bs. Would not give me any details about anything. Would lie to my face about trivial things and then I would bust her. It’s like you are dealing with a stranger that is a compulsive liar. I hope you are correct, it’s going to really hurt if you’re not. Be prepared. I went from disbelief to utter sadness to being furious. Sometimes in the span of 10 minutes. Nothing in my life prepared me for this. Fortunately, I mostly kept my cool. I’ve screwed up at times and let my anger get the better of me but nothing terrible. When I feel sad or want to give up, I think about my kids. They help me focus. I’m not standing solely for my kids, I do still love my wife and think we can make it work. It’s ultimately up to her, not me. Use this forum, these folks will keep you on the right track.
