I brought whether she was seeing/sleeping with someone else to see what she would say and said she absolutely had not and would not ever in all the years we've been together. She said she has always been careful with male co-workers to not even send the wrong signal ever or for anyone to get the wrong idea.
They will straight up cold-blooded lie to your face. If she is having an EA or PA, she is absolutely NOT the sweet woman you've known for years whom you call W. They will lie, and lie, and lie some more until they get caught red-handed and even then only admit to only what they have to and has been proven and then lie about the remaining details. I confronted my ExW several times, revealing more and more than I knew each time (before I came to this forum; NOT a recommended path) and she flat out lied to my face each time. She didn't know but I was following along in great detail and knew everything. It was bizarre to me like gaslighting I couldn't even believe she could be saying that when I knew for a fact what was going on. So...your W telling you to your face that she's absolutely not with someone else doesn't mean anything.
Now...lots of discussion on this thread about a possible EA/PA which may or may not be happening. Part of that is my fault - I just wanted you to start preparing yourself for that possibly based on the long history of situations we've read here - but really this shouldn't a focus for you right now.
Like I said above...
1) Give her more space than she wanted or is comfortable with and starts to wonder if she really does want to lose you. No pressure, no pursuit, no begging, no pleading.
2) Shift your focus and efforts away from W and onto you and your daughter. Time to start improving yourself as a man and be the best father you can be.
