I haven't had much time to read anyone else's story/thread since I got here this week but you commented a few times in mine and said you were still in a limbo state so I was curious.
I just read both threads.
We are different age groups and much different scenarios with our W's but when you described your wife as someone who avoids any conflict no matter how small resonated with my wife.
I think back and there was probably so many times in our relationship where she might have been frustrated with something I did but didn't want to create any conflict or make a big deal about it. Then the of suppressing just led to more and more resentment.
The other thing that absolutely amazed me is how much great advice you have received on this forum. It is truly amazing.
Yeah, the conflict thing is tough. She will always back down if she thinks I’m angry or upset. She thinks I’m mad if I get even a little animated. I’m always aware of how I speak or approach her about anything. I grew getting yelled at and my butt kicked when I screwed up. She has probably never had a hand laid on her or really even yelled at. Her parents aren’t like that. Sometimes I think we wouldn’t be here if she would have just yelled at me occasionally 🤷🏼♂️. I have definitely received lots great advice and support. I truly appreciate it.
