I'm new to this particular EA concept so bare with me.
Where does the line of an Emotional Affair and close Friendship differ? And where should that concern line be? And what should I do?
An affair is a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment in which at least one of the participants is married to someone else.
The PA, physical affair, is basically when things turn sexual.
An EA, emotional affair, is when sexual encounter has not happen and things are romantic friendship and/or passionate attachment.
An affair crosses the line into being unfaithful; be it physical or emotional. A close friendship does not have romantic intent, nor is it unfaithful to one’s marriage or vows.
We speak of the two types of A for clarity and in discussion of what to do and possible time frames, prognosis, etc.
A straight up PA is likely not going to last. Lies and deceit and sneaking around makes a terrible foundation to form a relationship. Like building upon sand, it’s foundation is weak and unstable.
An EA is much more in their mind. Heck, some never even meet in real life, just texts and pictures and such. Then there is the whole stalking, and other unhealthy attachments that one can be drawn into. An emotional affair is much more a fantasy. It is more make believe. One hasn’t seen the other person warts and all. It is much easier to “believe” they are the bee’s knees. And it is tougher to slay a fantasy.
I want to express to you it is perfectly normal and healthy to ask questions and relay what’s going on with W and in your situation. Everyone requires a certain amount of understanding before they can let go.
So come here and post, vent, ask, seek guidance, work to understand, and tell us about your hobbies and life. You will have a lot to work through and most folks do not have people close by in real life that have been through the wringer or will so freely talk about it. This forum is pretty amazing when you think about it.
I understand the well meaning advice and attempting to propel you to detachment. However, you have a path to walk, and there are no short cuts. Posting and talking about details here also gets them out of your system and can prevent you from reacting to W. Besides, you literally got here yesterday.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
