I feel like counselling with me is just more pressure for you. I feel I’ve made what I want (reconciliation) very clear. But I respect that you need to work out yourself what you want, so there’s no point me going with you until you decide what you want. You can either cancel the appointment, or you can go along on your own to get some advice if you think that might be helpful. I’ve organised to go to a bar with some mates and have buffalo wings/beers and watch the game. Here’s the number if you want to cancel.
And then happily run off and do something super fun with your daughter.
You must leave immediately after. Don’t get drawn into a discussion under any circumstances. And don’t say it without anything other than a big smile on your face and super relaxed/happy. If you say it anxiously, angrily or without conviction, she will think you’re forcing her to decide if she’s in or out and so she’ll lose her sh**
Whatever you do, don’t say “let me know what you decide.” That’s pressure. She needs to believe you don’t give a flying fk whether she goes or not.
