Lots of great advice already from experienced posters. DnJ, Kind18, LH19, and Spiral are all seasoned board members. Listen to what they say and really take it to heart and implement their advice.
Two particular comments I want to highlight:
Originally Posted by DnJ
The point is to respect what she says. She says she is done with the relationship. Respect that. Listen to her. And no pressure.
W needs time and space to relax her feelings and let the other ones surface. She has lots to process and reconcile.
It's incredibly hard to do when you feel like your marriage is at risk and family is falling apart and your instinct is telling you to pursue and "fix" it, but you really truly do need to give space. You need to give her more space than she wanted or is comfortable with and starts to wonder if she really does want to lose you. No pressure, no pursuit, no begging, no pleading.
Consider making your highest priorities building your relationship with your daughter and improving yourself for you. And there's no need to chase your W. You'll probably find that she will stay on the periphery of your life, no matter how many times she says that she's completely done.
Shift your focus and efforts away from W and onto you and your daughter. Time to start improving yourself as a man and be the best father you can be.
"I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me." -Jim Rohn
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
