Yes, at the end of the process, I find myself married with no more divorce actions pending and she actually decided to withdraw the proceedings. When I asked her why, she pointed out that I said I didn't want to get a divorce. Of course, that was immediately following BD and now it is almost three years later. Then, I asked her if she was being serious considering how much time had passed. And she was. At that point, I knew enough not to pursue the conversation.
She's also started texting me much more frequently, bringing me food, expressing regret, and things like that.
KML,
I'm in the top 1% in terms of income and professional status. OM is not. So, there are some perks for her to being separated rather than divorced and I am sure that she misses parts of her old life. That's probably all that there is to it. What's hard for me to understand is why OM is willing to put up with it.
