Good for you realizing your actions and your willingness to accept responsibility and alter your behaviour and outlook.
Since the blow up you have been helping out more, and been more engaged. Your W a has acknowledged your efforts. Realize she took a lot of time to get to the point of airing everything back in September. It will likely take a similar, if not longer amount of time, for her to believe your changes.
Your changes - being a better husband, father, and person - are admirable. Do them for you, and make them permanent.
It is good she and you have seen a counsellor. Ensure you give her some time and space to process things. And keep the pressure from you minimal, like zero. She will talk about the relationship when she is ready.
Originally Posted by br4d0n
Last week, I scheduled a great family outing she agreed to go to at a local professional hockey game with no expense spared and we had a really great time. We also at least were each able to take off work and have a day date where we saw a movie and had a lunch out that was actually really comfortable and had good conversation. I again made the mistake of seeing how she was feeling about things after and that didn't go well.
Originally Posted by br4d0n
Maybe she is really done with the relationship but I think it's also possible that what she is "done" with is me smothering/suffocating her which I did out of stupidity.
She went out with you to movies and a hockey game. She even had a fun time. However, no one likes smothering/suffocating. And it sounds like that is more what she is pushing against right now.
She’s seen some of your changes. Live those changes. Be better. You the best version of you. Let you actions speak loud and clear.
It takes time for a relationship to heal and evolve.
Next date. No worrying and asking about her feelings. How would new you have dated if you weren’t worried? Be like that. Might have to act as if for a while until you get there.
Read MWD, read threads, ask questions. And do not share with W. She will likely think it just a ploy of some sort. Keep the source of your information to yourself.
The future is unknown and unwritten. Have faith. Where there is love, there is hope.
Welcome to the boards.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
