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[Wolfman]

And btw - I can relate to not being able to get all the cleaning done when busy watching a toddler, but to do NONE of it? That's kinda crazy.

I understand not being able to do it all. But none to me is unacceptable. She refuses to put the baby in the play pen. She is very efficient and moves fast. Putting the baby in the play pen for just 15 minutes she could get a lot done. Example: empty dishwasher, clean out sink from what she cooks during the day, some of the baby toys. That’s all I am asking, not expecting vacuuming and mopping or anything like that. Basically just clean up after herself and a little of the baby.

Wolfman,

Imo it's fair of GF to ask you communicate about your son's illness, especially if he's going to come around near her and the baby later that week. However, if she's really just using that as a way to keep him away and drive a wedge between you that is a serious issue you can't accept and need to have firm boundaries on. I've said this before...while her and your baby are priorities your other children have to be priorities as well. She has to accept you have other children and her baby isn't the ONLY priority on your list, or it'll never work between you.
Exs.

She has a hard time understanding that my son is a priority. In her words yesterday she is my woman and she should take priority. I told her I am sorry but kids take a priority. I’m not saying she is nothing, but there are times I will have to manipulate schedules so I can see my son. I said who is a priority for her. Melt the baby? She said he is a baby. I said fine, what about if we broke up and the baby is 12, and your boyfriend said forego seeing your son to clean a house would you? I got a blank stare. That little guy is her world, it drives me nuts she knows the truth but won’t admit to it.