basically Wolfman, what I'm reiterating is that we cannot control anyone else, we can only control ourselves. Things have always worked out better for me when I've taken the other person out of the equation and focused on myself - my thoughts, actions, wants and needs.

In other words - instead of REacting to someone else's behavior, putting the focus back on myself affords me an opportunity to be PROactive about what my next steps in life should be.

I hope this helps.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver