In my personal life, I tend to care what normal, trustworthy people think of me and my life. Their opinion matters to me. If someone in my life is a cheat and a liar, I spend zero of my headspace thinking about what I should do or say and how they might take it.
This is so true. Life is too short to give anyone that treats you badly the time of day.
Originally Posted by Kind18
Personally, I wouldn’t be spending any time with her. I definitely wouldn’t be wearing matchy matchy outfits for Christmas. Like, WTF?
I agree. If you want to have one more decorating day with your children than as others stated dress to the 9s and head out afterwards.
Originally Posted by Kind18
You’re just teaching her it’s okay to treat you like crap.
This is so true and you will see it someday down the road.
Originally Posted by Kind18
You’ll dress up like her little Christmas Elf twin, but meanwhile some other guy is probably going to be taking those clothes off her when she is at his house cheating on you.
Unfortunately this is also true. Sad but true.
Originally Posted by Kind18
What you’ve done for years (trying to keep her happy and not rocking the boat) HASN’T WORKED.
DW one thing I can always guarantee is placating never works.
Originally Posted by Kind18
You know what you should do? Ignore her completely including any comments about matching outfits.
Yep.
Originally Posted by Kind18
If she seems surprised or pissed and asks why you aren’t her little Christmas b*tch, don’t bite - just be super happy!
This made me spit my coffee (thanks Kind18). Again sad but true. She is emasculating you. DO NOT LET HER.
Originally Posted by Kind18
“Why won’t you wear my little b*tch costume I bought for you, it seems very rude.”
See above.
Originally Posted by Kind18
“I’m going out to meet friends later and want to look my best.”
YES.
One last thing DW. Please under no circumstances tell her again you don't want a divorce. She knows it. Believe me she knows it and is using it against you.
