Hmmm....so you have White Knight syndrome. This is REALLY worth exploring before you get into another relationship.
Sure, it feels good to rescue someone because then you have their gratitude - right? Although that's NOT always guaranteed! Why else might it be attractive? Do you perhaps feel less secure about your value in other ways, so flexing your ability to rescue someone financially or otherwise is something you think you need to do to attract a mate? Did your parents perhaps model this type of relationship? Do you feel the need to be the one "in control" in a relationship, rather than dating an equal who might challenge you? Do you not feel you deserve a woman who is independent and has her act together?
It's worth exploring for sure so you don't keep repeating.
White Knight syndrome. I will definitely look into that. Real good questions, you have asked. Curious how my parents would have modeled this type of relationship. Control the relationship. I dont think I do, not sure where I have acted this way. Maybe ex felt that way.. This does need to be explored.. It may be a sign of something that might be an eye opener.
I was discussing with my sisters about the White Knight Syndrome. Common theme, our parents were from very hard poor families. But, instead of wanting more for us, we ( at least I was) somewhat neglected. No expectations from school, did sports but it was school required as much as Dad wanted to get involved. My Dad, military , was gone allot, worked long hours when home. Mom, she just did laundry, meals, and sent us to school. No real trips, no social stuff, just nothing. Most of my friends , as we all discussed, did stuff. Sports, trips, educational things to better themselves, camps, boy scouts, music. I had to pay half for my BMX as a kid, half for my walkman ( yes I am dating myself) for example. Things started coming out when I spoke with them.. I guess as we get older we close things into compartments. It kind of makes sense now. They say neglected parents can cause you to have emotional weakness, low self esteem, no drive or direction... And you always want to help people than mentally you may think have the same issues and need rescuing, without knowing why you do it.
