You are 8 months in and have let go the stereotypical ego driven problems. You have, and are, making good progress.
Originally Posted by MikeP
I can usually shut it down but the damage is done.
And healing is happening.
I do hope you realize that.
kml’s suggested strategies do work. The stop sign is a conscious controlled by you mechanism to halt unwanted runaway or wandering thoughts.
And I can attest to the movie analogy. For me, watching the same imagined movie over and over of W and OM, basically just got boring. It’s a more subconscious influence type resolution.
Of course this all goes hand in hand with detachment, indifference, letting go, and so on. We heal on multiple fronts simultaneously.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
