Question for anyone following along that was able to reconcile after a PA. I guess anyone can answer really if you have some good advice. We are almost 8 months in and I still struggle with images of them having sex. In the beginning my problems were the typical male, ego driven problem-was it better, was he bigger, etc. Now I don't care about that, I just think about her being with him and randomly have images flash in my mind. I can usually shut it down but the damage is done. I guess maybe more time is the answer? I have even had these images pop in my head while we have been having sex, doesn't get much more screwed up than that. Again, maybe there are no answers but it can't hurt to ask.
I can understand your images etc. Women think of mental connection more so than the physical we think of. That being said, it will take a long time to rid yourself of the images of her with another man. Natural. Only you can truly see past that. I am sure someone with wiser and more experienced thoughts will come by and talk.
