Try to remember to breathe! Keep the focus on you and your family.
Many of us come here to better understand what has happened to our spouses/partners and relationships. So many of the situations are the same and yet so different. Each person going through this is different. It's best not to try to compare your situation with others. Yes, odds are your spouse is acting out and wanting her freedom like yesterday.
We suggest that you get all of the facts because knowledge is power. It is better to prepare yourself even if you save your marriage in the long run. Try to remember this is not a sprint/walk in the park. You are going through the grieving process because of what has happened to your relationship. Allow those feelings to wash over you and let those feelings go. Find some outlets that will help alleviate some of that anxiety that you are feeling. This is your time to rediscover the person that you were before you were married.
No one is saying to file papers, but it does help if you have some knowledge of what you will need to do, if it should come to that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
