Living with WAW 3

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I agree with DNJ, do not sign anything without a lawyer looking at the information. When they are sitting on the fence and hoping that you'll take the reins and do the heavy lifting, they will ask for the moon. They just don't care if you have to be on the street corner with a tin cup just as long as they get everything they ask for. They think that the divorce decree is the answer to "freedom". They think the grass is greener on the other side, but it's not. Happiness comes from within and not from external "stuff".

We are a "divorce busting" forum and we do not advocate divorcing right out the gate. We try to work with the posters and help guide them through the process of separation and the ups and downs you will face along the way. We are here to listen and offer advice and sometimes posters have questions on how to navigate a divorce, i.e., as to what to do and not do. Ultimately, it is your decision as to whether you want to move forward and do the paperwork yourself, but seriously, if she wants the divorce, then she should be the one to do the work.

I would sit back, gather your information and be prepared if and when the time comes and you need to move forward. Start looking around for a good lawyer, one that will not be in a rush to the court house to file papers. That lawyer will need to work for you are the one that will tell him/her what you want to do...do not allow him/her to push you into something you are not ready to do. Gather information and then think about what you want to do.

No matter what happens, we are here to support you throughout your journey and we want you to know that you will be okay. Try to look at the situation as a business deal and make decisions with your brain and not your heart. Keep the focus on you and your family and live your life to the fullest the best you can at the moment.