I would be very careful with paying a retainer fee. I would visit at least 3 more lawyers with free consults. You should be able to pay with cash for 1 hour consults after that.
You can also go to your local court and watch some D proceedings. You can see lawyers in action and listen.
Ayep...
In addition to...
If you consult, she won't be able to use them against you....
For now though, I'm still not sure why you are doing the legwork for something that you do not want....
