What to do?

[MikeP]

I've been confused about how to approach things since she is home and wants things to work.

Well the good news is if she wants things to work you have about a 95% chance they will work with a good MC.

I try to limit R talks, sometimes my emotions screw that up.

Learning to control your emotions is something that will help you immensely.

I think I really just need to stick to the standard DBing. I have been working more on GAL, not great at it but working.

Keep at it.

Unfortunately, we are probably in the 5% group. She has no desire to see a counselor either with me or alone.