My nervousness stems from a few things. In order to get the info I want from the L, I have to pay the retainer fee.
Shop around. Plenty of lawyers offer a free consultation. Or just hire one for an hour and see what your rights are. Have you financial info ready and just go see.
Originally Posted by DW17
This is something I can't really hide from W. I got a separate card to put it on, but I feel like one way or another she'll find out.
Pay cash. It’s quiet. No paper trail.
Originally Posted by DW17
I got a separate card to put it on, but I feel like one way or another she'll find out. And we both said we'd try and do this without them. So it feels like something I can't hide if I do it. I don't know. I'm just having reservations about it, especially since I haven't responded to W about the D papers.
Originally Posted by DW17
The unknown of the D paperwork s@cks. W jokingly mentioned it this morning by saying she hopes that I sign them for her bday. Then she apologized for being mean.
You are worried about her finding out, and she is making light of a pending divorce by hoping you’ll sign as a birthday present. And from the scattered and disorganized settlement she proposed, yes I guess she’d be happy if you signed. (Don’t sign! BTW )
Do your thing and seek legal counsel. Let the chips fall where they do.
I’m pretty sure your L will shake his head at her proposal.
Originally Posted by DW17
She will have to be the one to push that issue forward though. She wants to D, I don't at this time, I will not take that guilt off her shoulders by moving it forward.
Good. Let her do the heavy lifting. You don’t block anything, and you don’t overly facilitate anything either.
Just gather your information and be ready if/when you need it.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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