A lot of people here mistake what they think is love with fear and the loss of control.
Originally Posted by MikeP
I love her sill, but I'm afraid of losing a lifetime together.
Yes I felt the same way. Couldn't imagine us not sitting in our rocking chairs in our 80s.
Originally Posted by MikeP
33 years together and it feels like it all disappeared in the span of one conversation on 4/2/22.
Mine disappeared one day when I wanted to check the weather on her phone and she has a passcode which she never had before.
Originally Posted by MikeP
She has always been there since I was 17, the thought of losing her seems more than I can bear.
Completely understandable.
Originally Posted by MikeP
As much as it hurts to think of us going our separate ways, it hurts more to think that she would throw it all away and still won't do much to reconcile.
So what do you think that tells you about her mindset right now?
Originally Posted by MikeP
She's not where I am obviously. She's been home for 6 months, but it doesn't feel much different than it did the first day she came home.
Yeah I was in your situation for 18 months.
Originally Posted by MikeP
The fear of being alone for the first time in my is hard to overcome.
I felt the same way. Though I love being alone now. Now I am having a hard time imagining ever living with someone else lol. Funny how things change.
