Something I left out- when she moved back in, I talked to her about how our marriage had devolved into us focusing on the kids and never on us. I asked and she agreed to go out to eat one night a week. I did not pressure her at all, just suggested it as a way to spend time without the kids around. We have done it every week but one. I look forward to these dinners and I really believe she does too. We don't talk about us, did a little at first but stopped. We talk, have margaritas, and generally have a nice time.
Originally Posted by BL42
MikeP - If she really is into these "date nights" I think that's a positive sign. The fact that she moved back, says she wants to fix things, is open to date nights and sex with you is a positive sign. At least relative to most situations on this board where the WS is gone, living with someone else, saying they have no interest to work on things...etc., you're situation seems relatively better. Now, that does not by any stretch mean you're through the woods. You two have A LOT to get through and work out if you're going to be successful. The situation is still on thin ice. But...if I were you I would take some solace/hope in it and keep doing the work and not give up. Just my opinion.
Originally Posted by Mach1
Strongly agree....
Applaud the 2% that is right for now, until you have a concrete reason to not to...
That is my thoughts as well.
One of my mantras is "Do not be boring". Definitely mix up date night..ie do not always do dinner. I always like live music.
I have changed up the way I "ask":
Me: "I am planning on going to see this new band at (name of venue) this Friday at 6p. Would you like to join me?"
Become a high value man that only a fool would leave. You want her pursuing you.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
