LH19, I understand what you are saying. That's exactly how it went with us, mostly. I always tried to communicate with her about my needs and things with our relationship that I felt needed work. She on the other hand never communicated. She did exactly as you said and let things build up over the years until she reached the "I need to leave point".
I know it takes time, hopefully she sticks around long enough to see that my changes are real. A big issue for me though is that she hasn't made any changes. Maybe in time she will if she believes what she sees in me is real. She needs counseling, not just for us but for her. I can't control that, and I don't mention it anymore.
