Once someone sleeps with an affair partner, it’s game over.
What happens if she admits it like you so desperately want? Maybe she gets her sh** together for a year or two, then she goes and does it again. Her admitting it will achieve nothing, other than making you feel better about it. But it isn’t going to stop her from doing it again. If anything, it will make it easier for her to do it again in the future.
I’d get a lawyer to get my ducks in a row. Then I’d sit her down and tell her I know she’s cheated, tell her she’s got 24 hours to leave the house.
But that’s just me.
Three years on, my WW still hasn’t admitted to it. She still sells that she’s a victim and that I left her.
It’s hard to explain just how little that worries me any more.
Not your job to hold her accountable and smack her bottom.
There are days when I want to do exactly what you say. Most days I don't. For whatever reason I think I can forgive her, I know I probably pushed her away. Not excusing her at all, I've been unhappy as well but never turned to someone else. The kids play a big part in wanting it to work as well. I have considered consulting a lawyer to get my ducks in a row, just in case.
