The people who saved their relationships following MWD's approach don't often post anymore. I'd encourage the search function to find past stories from people who found the combination of strength (boundaries) AND empathy (validation) to save their relationships. I'll call out two--May & SteveLW. There are many. I had some success in reaching reconciliation for a year or two though the relationship ultimately didn't work out. AnotherStander's advice was pivotal. Note the stickied threads on boundaries, validation, and sandi's rules from the Newcomers forum's heydey (when it was a bit less male-dominant and adversarial). Also MWD's book and services, of course. Good luck!
