Are there any stories on the forum in the past where this happened as well?
All advice is welcome.
I don't recall anything as individual as yours, but yes, there are stories here about "after rock bottom" and the eventual slow climb out .
There are stories about the 'sane' side of MLC, and the affects that they have had, and the collateral damage that has to be worked through.
AmyC, Spirit/Mirage, MrCAS to name a a couple. There are some older ones that maybe Job remembers also. Possibly, because I can't remember exactly, RCR, Myfavoriteweirdo...???
There are some threads here from posters who's MLCer has come home, and the piecing efforts during that time...
BrandNewDay, Yellowrose, Jack3Beans to name a couple....
I have had conversations with several MLCer's about their time in the tunnel. The "Fog" seems to be the most mentioned part of it. The knowing that they are causing the damage, yet have felt compelled, and felt as though they had no choice but to try to find the ever-elusive happiness.
The most astounding one was a friend that told me that she had a baby, and when she woke, he was 4 years old....
I have another friend that is newly re-married to his former MLCer, and has had some similar conversations in the past 2 years.
I guess it best to ask...
What is the ending that you seek from this ???
What do you find yourself wanting to work toward ???
What is it that you want ???
If it is reconciliation....
What does that look like for you ???
How will you know when you get there ???
What steps and boundaries would you need in place if that were to happen ???
Would you be willing to accept a child of his, that isn't yours ???
It's funny, when we get here, we are told that the outcome of this ultimately lies with the LBS....
Which is where you are heading.
Just remember that nothing has changed just yet.
Keep doing and being you for now....
When the wayward returns....
They will pursue.......HARD.....
So maybe know those answers ^^^, if that were to happen....
