Thank you D and B, for always giving me the support I need.
What you write above is indeed completely true, this has been proven again in the last few days.
As I said, I was away for a week, completely on my own, to the northern part of Italy, and I must confess that this was the trip of my life. On a personal level, this was very enriching and also the first time I've done something just for myself. I am very proud of that.
And then one comes back home…
After returning from the trip this weekend, G/XH wanted to speak to me at his home… How do I start… So the R with OW2 is over...the reason for this is quite a shock... The R apparantly was also very difficult. Fights on a regular basis, they broke up several times these past 2 years. But... turns out she is pregnant, 44 years old and pregnant of his child… He didn't want the child, she decided on her own to keep it. She wants to stay in her country of origin and raise the child there, he didn't want this. Now they have no contact anymore with each other. The only person who knows this is his father, and now me.
Sorry for my language, but can this whole sh*tstory become any worse???
He also said that he destroyed everything. That he doesn’t dare to admit that I am the love of his life, that his ego has the upper hand in this, especially towards the outside world. That he has been living in a fog for the past 4 years, a fog that is now slowly clearing. He said that I'm probably right, that he's in a midlife crisis, that he wanted to try a completely different life but it turned the other way around.
He doesn't know what to do. He does not want this child, but also does not know what will happen once it is born. (planned for February) He also wants to tell the truth to our children, I told him not to do this yet, that he must first know which direction this will all go before saying anything to them. This will be very hurtful to them, I'm sure. He is afraid she will contact me or the kids via social media. (she can find us through there of course) He doesn't think so, but isn't quite sure. That's why he wants to be ahead of her.
Surprisingly, I have remained very calm under all this. He constantly wanted to lay in my arms, he needed security, I gave him this. I don't know why, but it just felt right at the time, as weird as that sounds. We sat on the couch for a few hours, the man is completely broken.
The bottom line is that he really only has me to talk about this. It doesn't work with his father as he doesn’t want to hear anything about it.
Are there any stories on the forum in the past where this happened as well?
