Mach so you know hypergamy and gold digger are not the same thing.
I do now. I feel my ex is desperately trying to find security in her future. She was a survivor when I first met her as she was struggling to get out of her parents home, even though she was working full time.. Then our marriage got all screwed up, and she hyper focused on getting ahead. She was doing very very well in Real Estate, and Mercedes Benz relocation contracts. Now everything is drying up in a bad way. So, she found a person who has never married, no kids, is financially secure, and probably in her circle of business. She sees him as a lifeline, subconsciously. I cant control her, and honestly do wish her the best. I just had always thought we would power through and get back together. I am human. I am financially secure for the rest of my life. Once I get focused on me, 100%, I am going to be fine emotionality etc. Its a process many here have gone through as I will too. Like its been said, the vision I have of her is fantasy, not reality. I will eventually just remember all the good and forgive/forget the bad, as best I can..
