Boundary after big D part four

[BL42]

Mach40,

and the question came up, should I get her Momma something, card etc for Christmas..

You wrote this in a passive voice, i.e. "the question came up", but who raised the question...you? her?

Well, oldest said her Momma did get me a gift card, but since she was sick for my B Day dinner, my oldest put the gift card in her card from her and my grand baby. Didnt tell me till today. Made me feel bad for that. Wasnt my fault, it was my daughters for not informing me..

You should spend some time exploring why you feel bad. This woman divorced you and is dating another man. And you feel bad for not saying thank you for a gift card you didn't know about?

Thoughts on what I should do, reach out and give her a thank you for the gift card.

Nothing. It's over. Let it be.

And, since she did get me something for my B Day, should I retro something to her?

No!

I am sure most will say, just let it go.

Yep. You know our advice

I get it, but after 32 years, some things always mean something regardless of how we feel about each other.

Mach you're officially divorced and have been separated many years. Your time is better spent on you rather than giving her headspace about a gift card.