Nice guy syndrome has never been told to me. When I was young, I was very confident going after ladies, never felt rejected when I was, if that makes sense. When I met my ex, I was still pretty much running around. We were friends then, then I started really liking her, stopped going after other ladies and focused on her. Took quite some time, due to being in the Navy, and being deployed allot. Obviously now, I was very naïve as to our situation. I honestly thought that she was trying to focus on us and herself to get back together. When actually she was just executing her plan to become independent financially career wise, then once that was secure, she started looking for another man. Of course, this was pretty recent within past couple years, one EA and now a OM. Career took a long time, lots of work to be able to afford a house, car, etc after having nothing. So, Mr naïve I was, I was helping her and my daughters out, as I was the Husband. I was blind to it all, in laws kind of new, SIL/BIL new she wasnt focusing on getting back. So yes, I was Nice Guy.. Please dont think she is an evil woman, she has allot of reasons to do what she did. For her, the kids, grands etc.. She sacrificed, and I failed to see what was going on. I am up to speed now, slowly getting out, doing things, updating house, spending quality time with kids.. Havent bought her anything in a long time, as I have before.. And, according to the oldest, business is not doing well, even though she is the #1 Realtor in the company in this area, real estate is not doing well. She is even talking of selling home and renting.. Still, she hasnt said anything to me, as she is too proud. And I digress.. I am pretty good at striking up conversations with ladies, I just havent had to for relationships in a long time. And when I am ready, I will be ready. Church next week, and soup kitchen for thanksgiving.. Love helping others.
