While I agree with kml’s assessment that you might want to examine your assertiveness level, I disagree with nice guys lacking confidence. I know several nice guys who have very high confidence levels. Not all women pass nice guys by. Some of us prefer and choose nice guys. While you should certainly examine yourself, think about the type of women you choose. Maybe you are choosing those types who don’t choose nice guys.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids