Today I finally looked over the paperwork. A lot of things are not complete. No financial info, no description of who gets what, she didn’t fill out her portion of the child support worksheet, she checked that she needs spousal support, but did not select whether the court will decide or the dollar amount she is requesting, the parenting plan does not work for me, and several minor mistakes. She hasn’t said it, but I think her plan is for us to sit down and work through it together. I told her I’d respond in 1-2 weeks. I have a few people I’d like to get advice from and I have to speak with the L still, but it seems like she is attempting to get me to do the leg work with this, which I’ve been told not to do. She spent a total of about an hour on it. I spent more time than that today looking into things. I’ve got some time to decide how I want to respond to her, but I wasn’t served these papers, and they aren’t complete. Should I just give her the applicable financial information and let her complete it? Should I just accept the situation and get on with it? She wants a divorce, I don’t as of yet, but I don’t get to control that.
This isn't something that you want is it ??
I would assume that it isn't...
If it isn't, then why are you willing to work toward it ?
Like the others have said, this is a business transaction as of now.... and what will become a series of negotiations.
Not something that you want to do, something that you have to do. So why work so hard for it...
All you have to do is ....
Item 1 - no
Item 2 -yes
Item 3 - yes
Item 4 - no
And so on....
She wants this so bad, let her do the work for it....
That way you aren't trying to control anything, you are just saying what is acceptable for you.
I would also advise you to make 3 lists....
Things that you won't budge on...
Things that you are willing to negotiate a little on...
And things that you are willing to give away....
When in question, you can refer to your list without hesitation during the emotional part of mediations.....
All of your decisions should be made with the rational part of your brain now...
