She says she has a right to know so she is not blindsided and has time to prepare.
She’d like to know. She doesn’t have a right to know.
Originally Posted by DW17
I haven't spoken to the L yet other than the initial consultation, so if I do respond, I could say I do not have one at this time and would like to avoid it....
I don't know. I hate this.
Fear is entangling. Fear is paralyzing. Fear’s tentacles run deep. Fear is about what might happen.
I do not think you’d like to avoid seeing a lawyer. You’d like to avoid this situation and what might happen. And that is fear. Utilizing a lawyer will provide guidance and answers which removes many of those possible outcome and does plenty to assuage one’s fear.
If W is feeling guilty, she may be inclined to offer a better settlement. Lots of folks do. Having her pursue that through a lawyer is best. Her offer is much more ironclad that way. If you send a terrible lopsided in you favour settlement in to the courts without both having legal counsel it is very likely to get rejected. And that puts you and W months further along, months in which she will have grown less guilty.
Remember this is a business deal gone sideways. Treat it as such. And that is about the best boundary there is.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
