I think that's the point everyone has been trying to teach me. The boundaries are for me. If she does something that violates ia boundary i.e. going under, over, around, I take an action. Without that action, she'll do whatever she wants, like staying in the house. So for my communication boundary, she can keep calling or texting about whatever she wants, but I will not respond to it.
As far as her "boundaries", or any that I've previously tried to set that weren't really boundaries, I'm not sure what I do with them at this point. Can't really just erase them and start over. I do see a ton of value with them if applied correctly at the beginning and enforced consistently. And I've only really set one, so maybe I just kind of ignore anything else I've said since they are irrelevant at this point. If she violates them, she violates them. I should have had actions. And if she calls something a boundary, I'll just consider it a request. Putting the toothpaste back in the tube is a little difficult at this point.
