Hey LH. Halloween was pretty good. Took the younger kids trick or treating with W. The weekend immediately prior to Halloween night, I traveled a few states away with my brothers and two of my sons to a bucket list haunted attraction. The fright factor turned out to be a little disappointing, but it was a fun trip nonetheless. How was Halloween for you? Did you get plastered?
Things at home feel decent. W and I interact and talk more. I really don't get a vibe that she's playing 4-dimensional chess and is suddenly going to change her demeanor and push for divorce. What to chalk that up to? Perhaps passage of time and the 180s I've been consistent with, primarily giving her space. I suppose it's a victory in that almost everyone who winds up at this site hopes to save their marriage. Of course, a.) I can't predict the future and b.) I wouldn't say the marriage is where I want it to be.
I've toyed around with the thought of a drop-dead date next summer. It would be a big decision and I don't know (as of now) if I'd have the wherewithal to napalm the family. Yet, I can't go on forever not really doing much with my spouse. Like, what's the point? Yeah, we're still active in the bedroom, but I mean things like trips or "dates." And of course, the phone passcode and night time "homework" for a couple hours remains. It's a tough one because I've certainly read many of the situations on this board and can't really label my own as a particularly bad one.
Any thoughts on how I should initiate movement if and when the time comes?
