I think many times it’s the lesser of 2 evils. Are 2 parents staying together who hate eachother for the “sake of the kids” better than 2 homes where where there is peace me calm at 2 homes, and yeah, they have to go back and forth and that is annoying, but at least I don’t hear and experience a home in which my parents are constantly arguing or treating eachother poorly?
Sure, my kid does not like going back and forth. It’s annoying. She doesn’t like that she sees her dad so much less. But if we were together and she would have witnessed the way he treated me? Which is more toxic?
We all know a Two parent living stable home is always the best. But in many instances it is simply not possible because it takes 2 to make that happen.
When these kids can say “I wish my parents didn’t split” I think that is under the premise of “I wish they stayed together and were both healthy” I don’t think they would realize what would have happened if they stayed together in a toxic situation.
