This may be unpleasant or an unpopular opinion, but so be it. I don't soft peddle things to my friends - aren't you lucky?
I am lucky...thank you...
And you know I don't shy away and hide from that either...
I welcome what is real and truth...
Originally Posted by B-lady
You promised your dad you'd take care of your step mother. That's admirable, but is it in fact even possible, or is your care for her even needed right now?
Doesn't matter that they were married for 40 years. Doesn't matter that it's a blended family. When all is said and done the truth is he was your dad and she is their mom. She knows you care, you've made sure of that. You've done a pretty great job of taking care of certain things for her and everyone knows that. They are circling the wagons around her, and the reasons could range from she's their mom to something more nefarious, but does it matter or change anything?
Perhaps it's time to take care of yourself. You've lost K and now you've also lost your father. That's a huge amount to unpack.
There is a large part of that, that isn't even mine to unpack. It's luggage from an up rearing of a different culture for me. I'm not that same person anymore, although I could possibly fall back into those patterns if I don't recognize them in the moment.
I have realized that it isn't needed for now. Her wagons are being circled by the natives there, and that's okay. IF the need comes, then I can asses the situation for what it is then. Not what I think that it will look like.
Originally Posted by B-lady
Don't you think you deserve some care and attention?
What would K say about all this, or J3B?
Think about it.
I have come to that conclusion....
And one of the factors that I involved in the conclusion that I made...
I simply cannot deal with both losses right now....
So I prioritize my heart....
K comes first....always....the rest, I will deal with when I get to it....
