As you're hearing her blame you for all her unhappiness and everything wrong in her life, it's vitally important you remember...
1) People's bad actions towards you are a reflection of their character, not yours.
2) Often times the WS's journey is so much more about them than the LBS.
Your W is likely dealing with deep seeded issues you could not possibly be responsible for. Please keep that in mind when she lies and gaslights you. Certainly reflect on the areas you need to improve as an individual and a partner, but also don't buy into the narrative she's trying to convince you of and shoulder all the blame.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
