By your account she checked out many years ago.. She holds a serious grudge, thats for sure. The only positive, and this is big, is the girls and grands are very much a part of my life. She may have been doing her career to get out on her own, and now finally started dating, but she ensured the girls had a Dad and the grand baby had a grand pa.. All is not lost.. But, She was my life, and such. Yep, no real friends, no fitness, no real hobbies other than my car.. Not much of a hobby..