I am going to start with a Church group when I get back. I have a list of things I will start doing from gym, guitar, and socialize more.
Church group, gym, guitar, more socializing...all good stuff.
Originally Posted by Mach40
I live in S Carolina, and travel quite bit each year.
Maybe it's my ignorance of Alaska, but my guess is you'll do better on dating apps in SC.
Originally Posted by Mach40
With her becoming a big part of my life, my oldest daughter ( her Mom), became so close. We were for the majority of my marriage at wits end. Nobody ever thought she would have forgave me for our relationship being terrible.
What was the driver of your relationship being so bad with your step-daughter? Was it the typical "you're not my 'real' dad" you hear about in these situations, or was there a deeper thing going on with your actions? I don't know, but it strikes me as something you should dive deeper into and examine...maybe it'll reveal an area in you which needs improvement.
Originally Posted by Mach40
I am more positive, happier, better listener. Many positive comments for almost 6 years.
Good stuff. People want to be around others who are happy and fun.
Originally Posted by Mach40
Sure, I was naive enough to think we were going to get back together. I am fully awake now, and will go forward in more than just my family.
That's OK. The reason we're all here is we wanted to save our marriages and keep our family together. Nothing wrong with being a little hopeful. But also important to see reality as it is and move forward with your life at this point.
When do you head back to SC?
I am back in SC as of yesterday. First order of family was pick Grand Daughter at kindergarten. She had no idea I was going to be there. Biggest hug ever, it was great.. She was in her Sonic Halloween costume as they had a trunk or treat yesterday. My oldest was the typical, you aren't my Dad situation. She was taken from SC to HI, right before HS. So, she had to start HS in HI, not knowing anyone, hating step dad. She rebelled at everything. Going out, dinner, refusing to do well in school. Anything we did, she was the tipping point. And, I didn't do well with it. Tried to control her. I tried from the beginning to win her over, but that proved worse. Nothing I did was good enough. After graduating HS, we sent her back to SC to live with Grandparents, to start college etc. She was very angry and even had a rough time with grandparents. The friction was very hard on the marriage. Neither of us knew what to do, and it took a toll on us as a couple. I was the angry, controlling type with her as nothing seemed to work. She just didnt want to be a part of the family.. Sneaking out, partying, poor grades... Teens. Now, She and I have bonded, almost all of it was the birth of her child. It was a miracle. Everything from that day forward, she and I have embraced.. Surreal. Now that I am back, I am taking care of me. House projects, Halloween party Monday night. Church on Sunday, Hopefully that will open up things to do.. They have a auto shop thing they do for Church members that cant afford work to be done. That is right up my ally.
