You don’t. When we say “when you engage you lose”. That’s what we mean.

How are the kids? Great

How’s the how Reno? Great

I’m trying to be friends. Crickets

What aren’t you answering me I’m trying to be friends. I’m not interested in being friends.

See this is why I can’t be married to you anymore. Crickets

Eventually she will learn and stop. You have to teach people how to treat you. With her it’s going to be like training a new born puppy.