Action 2

[LH19]

I can allow her to experience the natural consequences of her choice as I protect myself by following through with action on my boundary.

What are your consequences for a broken boundary?

I can cease contact with her using only email for important matters that need to be communicated without emotion.

I would use text.

I can act as if I’m not in the role of her H because she doesn’t want me there.

What does that role look like to you?

I can express that divorce and giving up on our marriage is not what I want but I respect that is what she wants.

You only express that ONCE if she says she wants a divorce.

I can lead by being consistent with my core values.

Is infidelity part of your core values? If not then................

If she at some point comes to me and wants to work on our marriage I am willing to listen to what she has in mind.

Cross that bridge if and when you come to it.

Other questions for me to ask: have I done everything I need to address this situation?

What do you mean?

Are there other data that can inform my perspective?

Huh?

Does my W want to share more info with me?

Huh?

Am I stuck?

Depends on what you mean by stuck.

What do I need to accept?

You old marriage is over, done finished, kapoot. If you have a new one it has to be completely different than the old one.