Definitive clear solid boundaries and being hardcore about what I want and need are what I have not been doing and I am not good at these things up until this point. So these are the real changes I need to make in order to change myself for the better and shift relationship dynamics and thereby potentially leave situations or relationships that don’t fit.
This “relationship” with W doesn’t fit for me as it stands.
“Being an emotional chameleon, "trying" to be detached doesn't work. Set boundaries, set ultimatums. This is hard, but, it helps avoid all the back and forth.”
It is hard but harder to take is the back and forth. W says she doesn’t want to be married in words and all her actions but she says she doesn’t want divorce is scared of it. I’m not scared of divorce anymore or at least not of being single. I’m worried about what will happen to her but I know I’ll be ok and imagining it brings some relief if I’m being honest with myself.
I am very open to us both working together on our marriage but she is not there.
