Action 2

[BL42]

Rockon,

W got home to her mom’s from the trip without incident I understand.

I understand she was able to connect with a couple of our kids and grandkid on her return so that’s cool.

When you used the term "...I understand" it sounded to me like you heard from a third party and not directly from her, which is a lot different than this...

She started texting me around 48 hrs before her flight home. (She had also reached out to me from time to time during the trip)

After she got home she has started started reaching out more to me now.

Sounds like she's actually reaching out to you quite a bit.

I was slow, friendly, brief and measured in my responses.

She started to talk about future plans with me and I listened and said I was open to considering and that I am really enjoying life now and have to consider what’s best for me at first she wasn’t telling me anything about her trip but then started to talk about it I listened.

It also sounds like you're lending her a whole lot of emotional support, and showing her you're still open to things despite her actions, and being there for her...

Do you think that's smart?

She went to 3 countries met up with friends that she had made when she had done a previous journey. Talked about sites she saw walks she went on etc. She did not mention OM at all.

I can't imagine she would mention OM. Kind of a convenient omission, isn't it? Most WSs around here will flat out lie about their AP to their spouses face. Mine did. Doesn't mean she wasn't involved with him.

So pretty decent conversations. I’m still processing a lot.

Actions > words. What do you think those conversations are accomplishing?

Rockon - You're still being soft...trying to nice her back, being there for her, supporting her emotionally. Just my humble opinion, but I think you're making it easier on her and you really need to get stronger, grow a pair, and remove any notion in her mind you're going to be the nice caring supportive husband in the future with her jetting off to see OM. It's your sitch, not mine, but that's my $0.02.