There are two paths one walks during divorce - emotional/spiritual and business. Keep them separate. Stick to business while on the business side of things.
Set up your financial obligations. Automatic payments might be best; then you don’t need to get dragged about or bothered monthly (or whatever time arrangements are agreed upon). Utilize your L if needed to set things up. No need to converse with XW. Divorce is a business deal gone sideways. Treat it that way.
With the business side basically sorted out that leaves the other path - emotional. The emotional (and spiritual) path is more a life’s journey. The important part of this journey is not the destination, it’s the journey itself. How you conduct yourself. What you do. And why. The journey is the goal, is it’s own destination.
Stand tall. Remain responsible to your obligations. Walk with strength and grace.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
