Boundary after big D part deux

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Don't think she needed to let you know that, especially if she's most likely not taking action. Perhaps she thought she was giving you a heads up / being sensitive to your feelings, because it does sound amicable, but obviously it surfaces emotions within you. Maybe consider your boundaries here. Over time things like this won't impact you as much.

I was actually hoping my ExW DOES change her name - because she cheated on me and divorced me so why should she keep it? - but others here on the board said I have no right to even ask because of the kids, so I dropped it. I wonder if my ExW doesn't want to go back to her maiden name because 1) she and her dad didn't talk for years and aren't on great terms since our BD, 2) it's maybe a bit awkward for her early on to have a different name than the kids, and 3) probably waiting to go straight to OM2's name (but who really knows...mindreading on my part).