She wanted you to know she may be changing her name back but likely won't?
Yep, I am not sure why? It will make absolutely no difference to me. Started out with, Hope you are well, I know you are in AK and I am sure its cold yet beautiful ( which it is), then a paragraph explaining the name thing, then Hope you are well. So, I called my lawyer, asked when I will receive official paperwork for my clearance, etc. I really dont even want to respond to the email.
Don't think she needed to let you know that, especially if she's most likely not taking action. Perhaps she thought she was giving you a heads up / being sensitive to your feelings, because it does sound amicable, but obviously it surfaces emotions within you. Maybe consider your boundaries here. Over time things like this won't impact you as much.
I was actually hoping my ExW DOES change her name - because she cheated on me and divorced me so why should she keep it? - but others here on the board said I have no right to even ask because of the kids, so I dropped it. I wonder if my ExW doesn't want to go back to her maiden name because 1) she and her dad didn't talk for years and aren't on great terms since our BD, 2) it's maybe a bit awkward for her early on to have a different name than the kids, and 3) probably waiting to go straight to OM2's name (but who really knows...mindreading on my part).
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
I think you nailed it, she was just giving me a heads up. It was amicable, our ending. Not sure why she gives a hoot about my feelings. Loaded statement I know. But it was another B drop.. Last time I spoke about the divorce, it was simple. I wanted to know nothing other than when it was done, so I can process my end of the deal for clearance etc.
Not sure why she gives a hoot about my feelings. Loaded statement I know.
Mach I don't think your Ex hates you she just doesn't want to be married to you anymore.
Originally Posted by Mach40
But it was another B drop..
I'm sorry Mach.
If I didn't have kids I would prefer my ex to change her name but in the grand scheme of things WGAF.
My ex doesnt hate me, she just took an exit to another highway years ago. She did everything this forum talks about. She did what she had to do, without making huge waves. No, she doesnt hate me. Her daughters love me and are very important to me, as is my grands. If she hated me, they would not be as much a part of my life..
I went back to maiden name and I was going to hyphenate my daughters name. After all I gave birth, I had no way in our marriage ending and I hated that my daughter was going to have the same last name as the AP ( they got married)
In the end. I have maiden name, I would never change it again if I got married, I never hyphenated my daughters name because I didn’t want her to have to deal with that headache. The school has always called me Mrs. married name even when we weren’t because they just assumed.
