Yep unfortunately a lot of people use OLDing for validation instead of what it is intended for which is also part of the problem.
Returning tonight from Chicago and listening to my fav national radio phycologist when she said, not referring to OLD but just in general, though it still very much applies - dating when you’re not ready to commit to and work on an R is just mean and cruel. Most women OLD are not looking for a buddy to do things with. Too many guys and women too go there looking to take their minds off their current sitch. They may not even know it themselves. But they are not ready. They have no business dating. She was responding to a caller with a BF in this place but it applies to so many OLD.
It really is not fair to someone you may start to date when you’re not really ready. If you’re really looking for just a buddy to do things with, OLD is probably not the place.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
