Mach, I would share with you, but everything I say regarding the subject of dating is knocked down. Just listen to LH. He’s the pro .
Nah G can help she’s seen more male profiles than tea in China. I was just trying to prove a point on how difficult it is to be guy on OLD when someone swipes left if you say you put your kids first.
If you are attractive and display resources it will be easy. If you are an average Joe it will be difficult and frustrating. Either way it’s sure to be an experience you’ll never forget.
Well you can post it a thousand times and it doesn’t change how I feel.
Lesson here when something isn’t work for you than you communicate it to the person. If you can’t come to a mutual agreement than you walk away from the relationship before you start looking for other avenues.
Yep, communication was a huge failure for the both of us..
Key word both. Lesson learned now start working on that profile.
Mach, I would share with you, but everything I say regarding the subject of dating is knocked down. Just listen to LH. He’s the pro .
Nah G can help she’s seen more male profiles than tea in China. I was just trying to prove a point on how difficult it is to be guy on OLD when someone swipes left if you say you put your kids first.
If you are attractive and display resources it will be easy. If you are an average Joe it will be difficult and frustrating. Either way it’s sure to be an experience you’ll never forget.
Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Mach, I would share with you, but everything I say regarding the subject of dating is knocked down. Just listen to LH. He’s the pro .
Nah G can help she’s seen more male profiles than tea in China. I was just trying to prove a point on how difficult it is to be guy on OLD when someone swipes left if you say you put your kids first.
If you are attractive and display resources it will be easy. If you are an average Joe it will be difficult and frustrating. Either way it’s sure to be an experience you’ll never forget.
Yup, I’ve seen a lot. And yea, I swipe left if you have a few words and use then to say “my kid is my world” “or my kids are my number one priority” and actually most women swipe left on that. Not because your kids are important to you. Lh likes to make it sound like k hate guys who put their kids first. It’s not that at all, and he knows it. I am very attracted to men who are just good dads by being one and not having to announce to prove something or to use their kids as a cop out .
LH will go on to tell the you the top 10% BS and I don’t agree and it will just confuse you. I don’t want to make this harder or confuse you. LH has FINALLY had online success and he is now the master. So definitely listen to him. He’s also studied dating and relationships extensively in books and podcasts and on you tube. I just read the five languages and men are from mars book and why men date bit ches.
I do read along Mach. And I sense emotionally you are not done with this marriage. And I think LH is encouraging you to date for some validation and reassurance . I can almost guarantee that will come across in your actual dates. Whatever you do, don’t talk about your ex, your M, or your D on the first, second, or third date.
I wish you luck out there. I do agree with LH it is very hard for men on there. It is also very hard for women on there, In just a different way. The climate in OLD has really changed over the past two years. Covid changed people, quite honestly.
Anyways, I do not say that to discourage you, just to prepare you. Be appropriate with women and you’ll do well .
Lh likes to make it sound like I hate guys who put their kids first. It’s not that at all, and he knows it. I am very attracted to men who are just good dads by being one and not having to announce to prove something or to use their kids as a cop out .
I just think it is bizarre that you advise men not to do that because you had a bad experience with a guy who put his kid first.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
LH will go on to tell the you the top 10% BS and I don’t agree and it will just confuse you.
Have you read Spirals posts?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I don’t want to make this harder or confuse you. LH has FINALLY had online success and he is now the master. So definitely listen to him.
So this is interesting and may be the reason OLD is so harshly judged. You say I am finally having success with OLDing. In roughly 1 regular year and 2 pandemic years I have had about 40-50 first dates and am on my 4th exclusive relationship about 4 months in and I am only now successful? So that means Spiral who is dating multiple models but hasn't found just one is not successful? I believe Don H once said only Dawn has been successful with OLD because she got married to Sparky who she met on there. Even though she openly admits she was constantly verbally abused on there. So the question is what is the measuring stick? Dates? Hook-ups? Marriage?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
He’s also studied dating and relationships extensively in books and podcasts and on you tube.
Well a smart person will want to improve on the mistakes they made in the past.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I just read the five languages and men are from mars book and why men date bit ches.
Well what did you learn and do you apply it?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I do read along Mach. And I sense emotionally you are not done with this marriage. And I think LH is encouraging you to date for some validation and reassurance .
Well if you look back I told him the same thing but if is going to do this I would be happy to pass along any tips or advice.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I can almost guarantee that will come across in your actual dates. Whatever you do, don’t talk about your ex, your M, or your D on the first, second, or third date.
What if the person asks about your D, EXW or M?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I wish you luck out there. I do agree with LH it is very hard for men on there. It is also very hard for women on there, In just a different way.
It's definitely hard for both for different reasons. Men can be a-holes and women IMO are too selective but as in my thread it has a lot to do with Evolutionary Psychology and won't change anytime soon. Actually it is only going to get worse.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
The climate in OLD has really changed over the past two years. Covid changed people, quite honestly.
I am curious as to how you think it has changed? I OLDed pre-covid and post-covid and don't see a difference.
You are again so off base LH. This is why can’t post anything anymore. I am saying this based off of a guy who “put his kid first” and that wasn’t even the situation. We all put our kids first. And it is not my “one experience” you may also forget I’m a woman, who works with a whole bunch of women who also date. And this has not only been my experience .
Like I said, Mach, I’m sorry. I cannot give advice here because LH will always take it out of context. He will always have something contrary to me to say. It will not help you at all.
So really, just listen to the man who studied evolutionary psychology. We all decided we should be helpful to newcomers and not confuse them or to see us argue points.
If you want to write your kid is your world or your kids are your number one priority As you think it would be an advantage and that’s how you want to use your 3 sentences you get to sell yourself, do it.
I’m sorry Mach, I did want to help, but trust me, it isn’t going to be of any help to you.
I also have no energy nor desire to debate with LH especially on your thread. It didn’t turn out too well a prior time.
Look at his stats. His 4th exclusive relationship. Studying, reading, 40-50 first dates. He’s had tons of success. Listen to him.
Well thnx you two.. If I do OLD, I will try to make the profile be witty, low pressure, but exciting, something that makes them take notice. Thats all I can do..In our day and age there is a paradox of choices. If my profile picture isnt enough to at least stop them to read, then they are not worth my time. Why would I want to date someone that doesnt find me attractive. Men do it too. And we can not post pics or pm here(at least I cant), this is all I can do, as far as corresponding with anyone. But any advice is good. Yes, I am not over my wife, but am making leaps and bounds. All reminders, ie media is gone. At home, everything that reminded me of her is gone, in boxes, stored. With the exception of the house. Hard to sell and buy now with rates the way they are. I will be honest though, pictures dont always reflect the person true in person.. I see it with my ex. and many of her co workers. There pictures are old, or photochopped.. So, any witty one liners? A date doesnt have to be any more than that too.. Or it can be. We are a digital world, how 2 dimensional.
It's a process trial and error. You want it to me light, witty and fun but not too much because you don't want them to think you are just looking for fun. I changed my profile many times. Explore and see what works.
Uggh. Today was trigger city. Went to an auction here in Alaska. First saw a exact copy of a dresser my ex has. Just bit me. Then they auctioned off jewelry and co worker said, you should auction her ring off, which I dont have. But it made me think, would she sell it. Burnt me up. Been getting allot of triggers lately, not sure whats doing it. But it quickly gets vivid. Damn
