Boundary after big D part deux

[LH19]

Lh likes to make it sound like I hate guys who put their kids first. It’s not that at all, and he knows it. I am very attracted to men who are just good dads by being one and not having to announce to prove something or to use their kids as a cop out .

I just think it is bizarre that you advise men not to do that because you had a bad experience with a guy who put his kid first.

LH will go on to tell the you the top 10% BS and I don’t agree and it will just confuse you.

Have you read Spirals posts?

I don’t want to make this harder or confuse you. LH has FINALLY had online success and he is now the master. So definitely listen to him.

So this is interesting and may be the reason OLD is so harshly judged. You say I am finally having success with OLDing. In roughly 1 regular year and 2 pandemic years I have had about 40-50 first dates and am on my 4th exclusive relationship about 4 months in and I am only now successful? So that means Spiral who is dating multiple models but hasn't found just one is not successful? I believe Don H once said only Dawn has been successful with OLD because she got married to Sparky who she met on there. Even though she openly admits she was constantly verbally abused on there. So the question is what is the measuring stick? Dates? Hook-ups? Marriage?

He’s also studied dating and relationships extensively in books and podcasts and on you tube.

Well a smart person will want to improve on the mistakes they made in the past.

I just read the five languages and men are from mars book and why men date bit ches.

Well what did you learn and do you apply it?

I do read along Mach. And I sense emotionally you are not done with this marriage. And I think LH is encouraging you to date for some validation and reassurance .

Well if you look back I told him the same thing but if is going to do this I would be happy to pass along any tips or advice.

I can almost guarantee that will come across in your actual dates. Whatever you do, don’t talk about your ex, your M, or your D on the first, second, or third date.

What if the person asks about your D, EXW or M?

I wish you luck out there. I do agree with LH it is very hard for men on there. It is also very hard for women on there, In just a different way.

It's definitely hard for both for different reasons. Men can be a-holes and women IMO are too selective but as in my thread it has a lot to do with Evolutionary Psychology and won't change anytime soon. Actually it is only going to get worse.

The climate in OLD has really changed over the past two years. Covid changed people, quite honestly.

I am curious as to how you think it has changed? I OLDed pre-covid and post-covid and don't see a difference.

Be appropriate with women and you’ll do well .

What does be appropriate mean?